Are you clear on your values? Then why is it so hard to invest in yourself?
Personal Values
Have you ever said:
“I know I should focus on myself more…”
“I want to grow, but I just don’t have the time.”
“I’ll work on me later after everything else is handled.”
If that sounds familiar, this isn’t a time problem.
It’s a values problem.
According to Dr. Demartini, a human behaviour specialist, your values are your internal priorities. They’re the things that are so important to you that you naturally make time for them.
They are not what you say is important. They are not what sounds impressive. They are what your life actually demonstrates as important. If someone looked at your calendar, your bank statements, and how you spend your mental energy, they could quickly identify what truly sits at the top of your values hierarchy.
You don’t need motivation for what you genuinely value. You act on it naturally. You find time for it. You protect it. You organise around it. When something is high on your values list, discipline becomes almost unnecessary because your behaviour aligns automatically.
This is where the uncomfortable insight comes in. If you consistently struggle to invest in yourself, whether that means healing, learning, resting, building skills, improving your health, or setting boundaries, it may be because you are not high on your own values list. When other people’s needs, external validation, or constant productivity sit above your self-respect and growth, you unconsciously devalue yourself. And when you don’t see yourself as valuable, you hesitate to allocate resources toward your own development and healing.
But when you clarify your true highest values, something shifts. Energy increases. Focus sharpens. Decisions become simpler. You no longer need to force yourself to grow; growth becomes a natural extension of who you are and what matters most.
Do you need help identifying your values?
Join the Monthly Recalibration Collective - a space to listen to yourself again. For £20/month, you will receive four hours of guided meditation and tarot guidance designed to help you slow down, reflect deeply, and realign with what is genuinely important to you. This is not about prediction or performance. It is about perspective.
If you sit high on your value list or if you are finally ready to put yourself first, I am ready to welcome you in.
Monthly Recalibration Collective — Heart and Soul Meditation
