A deeper look at forgiveness, and why it changes everything
Lately, it’s really been sinking in for me that the power of expanding my soul isn’t about adding more, learning more, or becoming more. It’s actually about forgiving more, especially myself.
I know I’ve touched this work before. I’ve gone back, reflected, and made peace with certain parts of my past. But when I’m really honest, I can still feel the remnants. The small crumbs that haven’t fully cleared. The subtle stories and quiet lies I still hold onto about who I was and what I did.
And underneath that, there’s been this quiet fear… that if I truly forgive myself, I might not know who I am anymore. It almost feels like I would have to meet myself again for the first time, without the weight of those past identities.
So I started sitting with the word “forgive” itself. Not overthinking it, just feeling into it. And what came through was something very simple. To forgive is to give, without expecting anything back. It’s a one-way act. There’s no waiting for an apology, no need for acknowledgment, no conditions attached. It’s a conscious decision to offer grace, regardless of what comes in return.
And that’s not always comfortable, because we’re used to things feeling fair or balanced. We’re used to some kind of exchange. But forgiveness doesn’t always follow that logic.
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It made me reflect on the idea of duality, that there are always two sides to everything, even if we can’t see them at the same time. And it opened up a different perspective for me. What if, in the moment I choose to genuinely forgive someone, or even myself, something else is shifting at the same time beyond what I can see? What if, in that exact moment, I am also being forgiven somewhere, in some way?
I know the mind wants to question that. It sounds almost too simple. But I do believe there’s an intelligence to life, to the Universe, that holds a much bigger picture than we do. It sees the parts of us we overlook, the intentions behind our actions, and the growth we don’t always acknowledge.
So maybe forgiveness isn’t just something we do for closure. Maybe it’s something that moves energy in ways we don’t fully understand.
If this resonates, you could try something simple. Sit down and write a forgiveness letter. Let it be honest, unfiltered, and real. Say the things you’ve been holding back, whether it’s to yourself or someone else.
When you’re finished, burn the letter safely. As you do, imagine that what you’ve written is being released, not just from your mind, but from your whole being. Know that in that exact moment, someone you hurt has forgiven you without explanation.
You are free beyond the power of your mind. And maybe, in a way you don’t need to fully understand, someone else has been freed too.
